Designing your wedding invitation wording can be a minefield and needs a lot of thought, diplomacy and tact. In this article I will try to prioritise the important things and help unravel this small but important part of your wedding planning.
The wedding invitation wording is sometimes underestimated and taken too lightly, causing problems within your relationships with family and friends. If you get it wrong it can cause enough friction to spoil your day completely. But if you get the wedding invitation wording right, it will enhance and complete a fantastic day in both your lives. Here are the five essential things you need to consider when writing your wedding invitation wording.
1# - Firstly, you need to decide who is announcing the wedding, the bride and groom or the parents if they are paying for it. You may need to talk this through so as not to offend your parents or in-laws-to-be. If they are paying for the wedding they might want to be the ones inviting people on the wedding invitation wording. The last thing you need is friction between you and your in-laws or parents on your big day, especially if they are footing the bill.
2# - You will need to decide whether to make the wedding invitation wording informal or formal. This is down to you both and your personalities and lifestyle. We are all different and this must reflect your personalities. If you are a happy go lucky couple then people will not expect a formal invite and it would appear out of character for you. A business-like couple would send formal invites, again as this is what people expect from them and their style.
3# - When a couple are getting married abroad people generally have a reception after the wedding and again two weeks later back home for those that can't attend the wedding. In this situation you have to be very careful with the invites and reception invites as not to offend. Because if you think about it, if you invite people to the reception only, that can attend the wedding, you are in effect telling them that they aren't good enough to attend the wedding but are high enough up your friendship ladder to attend the reception. This can cause friction for years and even end friendships, so be careful. A wedding invite plus separate reception card is sometimes the best way to deal with this if there are two different receptions.
4# - Do you put optional details include telling your guests what to wear? Strictest etiquette tells you not to include information about attire on your invitation, but I think this is an outdated opinion. Guests appreciate clues about how to dress, and are not as instinctively knowledgeable as they used to be. To avoid someone showing up in blue jeans, include a line about dress code. People will appreciate it, especially for the reception. Trust me on this one I have first hand experience of this as I had a relative turn up to my wedding in a 'Starsky and Hutch' cardigan and blue jeans and spent most of my time making sure he wasn't in the pictures.
5# - Finally, the actual wedding invitation wording is vitally important as etiquette plays a big part in what is still a traditional event, no matter what age you are or how trendy a couple you may be. You can find many wedding forums, e-books and wedding planning books that will help you settle on the right wording for you. Make it mean something and make sure you have all the relevant information and get it proof read by several people just to be safe.
This is a very important day, so plan every detail to make sure you have all bases covered. Well... I hope this helps and wish you all the best and happiness.
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